When children are taught:
to be respectful of others;
that no one has the right to mistreat them;
that they are special and loved;
that they are listened to and important;
and that no one has the right to touch them without their permission;
they are then put into the public schools or daycare and their whole belief system is challenged.
Things that were taught as unacceptable become everyday occurrences in their world. They are sucked up into a tornado that goes on for the next 12 years or more if they have been put into daycare early on. Parents have to remember that all parents do not teach their children to, "do unto others as you would have others do to you."
Why would a child deliberately walk up to another and tell said child that they are ugly, that no-one likes them, they are unwanted, and that they are stupid? What is the psychology behind it all? Is it jealousy? Is it children mirroring their parents and how they deal with people, places, and things? Or is it the need to survive in an unfamiliar world? I don't have the answers.
Children are exposed to children of families that have different character. There may be some that have never been told to treat others fairly or to share. They may have had no guidance to be kind to others at all, hence the bullying to get what they want emerges. If they want something they struggle to get it; if it was a success, they believe that is what it takes to survive. The timid child that does not have the heart to bully gets shoved around and made to feel like they are less than a real person. Also, they start to believe they are unprotected and misunderstood. Some of this starts at such a young age.
Think about it. Some people put their children into daycare at birth. They, themselves, do not raise their children. They have entrusted the people employed at the daycare to care for them. Parents cannot sit down and interview the daycare workers to see what their value system is. They cannot question the integrity of the worker that will be imprinting their child. They cannot ask the worker how they feel about religious issues or, for that matter, if they even believe in God or accept Jesus as the Son of God. A parent cannot be assured that the same worker will be with their child throughout their stay there. Thus, the constant changing of personalities and values flows through the child's mind and psyche. Issues of abandonment can occur. The list of damage is endless.
Yes, I realize that children need to socialize and that some will feel this is a dramatic posting. Yet, I ask you...why have children become so mean to each other? I know what I have written here is not the all in all, but I do believe it is part of the problem. A child has to have godly guidance which God has entrusted to us, the parents.
Some will get upset and say they have to work for a living and cannot stay at home with their children. That is a choice that is made by each individual family. After all, after daycare comes public schools. It's a lifestyle and it does come down to choices.
Public schools say they have a zero bullying policy, but they don't. At least not where we are. The rules here are that a child can be bullied over and over and over again, with nothing happening to the bully, unless the child being bullied strikes back. What happens then? Well, the child that is bullying gets sent to ISS, but that isn't all. The child that has put up with continued, non-stop, bullying to the point they finally defend themselves is also put into ISS. So, the kids have learned that they can bully all they want to because the one being bullied does not want a detention on their record. It's just a crazy situation.
Our kids have been left defenseless, but for the graceful covering of God's Hand.
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